If you’re already in a relationship with a guy, the answer is yes, men love it when the woman makes the first move. It’s exciting, makes the man feel wanted and allows him to express himself more confidently as things progress. If, however, you’re at the beginning of a relationship that hasn’t gotten physical yet, the answer is no — if you put your arm around him and then lean in for the kiss, it will weird him out.
The thing is, it almost never happens. Even the most sexually aggressive woman isn’t usually making a move per se; she’s just making it very clear that she wants the guy to. But do guys like that? Definitely. In fact, they lie awake at night dreaming about it.
But Mr. Answer Man knows what you’re thinking: “I thought I was making it really clear!” Sometimes men are dense — here are five ways to enlighten them:
- Invite him in. A beverage makes the best excuse: “Would you like to come in for a … “
- Touch him. On the forearm with your hand is easiest, but on the upper arm with your breast is better. Also, the closer you can comfortably sit or stand, the better.
- Shower him with approval. Laugh at his jokes. Look him in the eyes and smile. Respond positively to the things he says. Men find all these things encouraging.
- If the conversation lulls, let it. Guys generally get silent before they bust a move — don’t chase the moment away.
- Ask a totally provocative question. How are you at foot rubs? Are you a good kisser? What time do you have to get up? You get the idea …
Do men like it when women ask them out?
Mr. Answer Man says:
Men definitely like it when women ask them out. What’s not to like? But before you get busy with your phone and address book, there are a few things you should know.
For starters, a part of the guy will wonder if you’ve called him up because you want to have sex with him. Guys are generally hoping to have sex whenever they go on a date, so this probably won’t mean he’ll behave any different, but you might want to set some limits early on. (Unless that is why you called him.)
Also, be prepared for lots of dating sites in India areas: Who’ll drive? Who’ll pay? Who’ll decide where to go? The impetus is generally on the guy to control the flow of events on a date, but since you initiated things, how far will the initiative extend? Ideally, this will be part of the fun, but it can lead to baffled expectations on both sides.
Another thing to consider is something guys have been dealing with since time began: The answer might be no.